Sharon Milne Counselling

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My name is Sharon, I have a DipHe in Integrative Counselling from Middlesex University.  I am a skilled, experienced Integrative Counsellor offering a *face-to-face collaborative approach to work through any problems you may be facing.


I work with individuals and couples struggling with issues such as depression, all forms of anxiety (health, separation, climate etc), stress, self-esteem, anger, trauma, relationship difficulties (including family estrangement), spiritual issues, bereavement and loss (including miscarriage and abortion).  


I offer a holistic approach to therapy which comprises your physical, emotional, volitional, rational and spiritual wellbeing. I work from a non-diet, body acceptance perspective.  I help you reflect on where you are, and where you would like to be, and provide you the tools and space to grow.

I offer creative therapy with clients.  This does not mean creating works of art, but using tools such as Russian dolls, stones, clay, pens, paints, paper and toys which can help show visually what's happening within.

I look forward to working with you.

*due to Covid-19, counselling is currently available via Zoom only.


About Me

I offer a calm, accepting and non-judgemental environment.

As well as my formal Counselling training, I am a trained  Internal Family Systems Practitioner  (L1).


I have expanded my training within the IFS model to include

'Parts which focus on food and the body''


'A Compassionate Approach to Addictive Processes'.


I am a registered member: MNCS (Accred) with

The National Counselling Society.

I am also a registered member of The Association of


Christian Counsellors.

It goes without saying that I welcome people of all faiths and none.

I am on the accredited register of counsellors for The


Foundation for Infant Loss.

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Internal Family Systems Therapy

Have you ever said 'there is a part of me' ? If so, you have already noticed that our minds are naturally multiple! We as human beings are naturally made up of many 'parts'!  In IFS these are categorised into three types.  A proactive protector called a Manager.  These parts want to keep everything in control, and they will sometimes go to extreme lengths to get that.  A reactive protector is called a Firefighter. They want the same thing, but they react to situations where pain is present and use behaviours which might not be so helpful in the long run like shopping, overworking, dieting/restricting, eating/binging through to more extreme behaviour.  Then we have our Exiles, the parts of us who hold painful memories and carry burdens such a beliefs, wounds and painful memories.  They carry our feelings of shame, worthlessness and loneliness etc.  We can also have parts who are polarised - eg. one part of me wants to go out and enjoy myself, but another part is very tired and wants to stay home.  IFS is an evidence based modality and found to be effective in the treatment of trauma, anxiety, depression, eating disorders and addiction.  

Within our internal system we also have a Self, this isn't a part, it's at our core and contains all our parts.  It also remains undamaged despite what we have been through.  Self is always present, but a bit like the sun, on a cloudy day (the clouds being our parts) we cannot always see the sun, even though we know it is there.  By working with me using this model, we can get to know your parts and work with them, rather than trying to get rid of them.  All parts are welcome!

Integrative Counselling

No two people are the same

Integrative Counselling is a combined approach to psychotherapy which brings together different elements of specific therapies such as Person Centred Therapy, Gestalt, CBT, Psychodynamic, Transactional Analysis and Transpersonal.  As no two people are the same, the integrative approach is tailored specifically to you.  I also incorporate Attachment Theory and Mindfulness into my work.

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Preliminary Session

What's it all about?

Counselling can seem daunting, especially if this is new to you.


As the Therapeutic Relationship is an important part of therapy, I offer a reduced fee of £30 for the initial consultation (£45 for couples).


During this session, we can then determine whether we feel working together would be beneficial for you.

Benefits of Therapy




Counselling and Psychotherapy is an investment in your greatest asset - you.  The relationship with yourself is the longest one you will have, and just like any form of exercise benefits your physical health, having counselling is just as important for your mental health.  


Some examples of the benefits of therapy that can take place are:


  • an increased level of self-awareness

  • learning how to set and manage boundaries

  • effective communication in relationships

  • healthier coping mechanisms

  • an increased sense of emotional wellbeing

What Happens Next?

Life throws many surprises at us, and while we cannot predict the outcome of any situation, we can learn how to respond to certain situations in an emotionally healthy way.  

Our childhood and past hurts can also play a part in how we handle life today, which can lead to us feeling stuck or overwhelmed.

In our relationships we can face demands and obstacles. Counselling is a good place to explore those challenges and acquire new ways of communicating and growing together.


Important Information

I am a 7-10 minute walk from Buckhurst Hill or Roding Valley stations on the Central Line.  Free on street parking. Online counselling via Zoom (account setup required).

£45 per counselling hour (50 minutes).

£65 per 1.1/2 hour session.

Couples £65 per hour. (Waiting List Full)

As part of my commitment to making counselling accessible to all, I have four reduced fee slots for those who genuinely cannot afford to pay the above fees.  These apply to weekly sessions only. (Currently Full)

Payment is by bank transfer.

Fees are payable 24 hours prior to your session.  If you need to cancel I require 24 hours notice otherwise a full fee is payable.

Buckhurst Hill, Essex

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Couples Therapy

All marriages and partnerships benefit from investment and sometimes they feel like hard work!  You don't have to wait until there are significant issues to commit to a season of couples therapy.  

I can show you how to enhance your communication skills effectively using Transactional Analysis (TA), and how Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse might be causing problems.

Learn about your Love Languages and Languages of Apology.

I work with Emotional Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) and EFCT with Trauma.


I work with issues such as:

  • Sexual Difficulties, Infidelity, Substance Abuse.

  • Loss, Grief & Bereavement in Relationships

  • Mental Health Issues.

  • Mindfulness, Attachment Theory and Family Systems.

I also offer individual sessions to work through any issues which might be hindering your relationship.