Sharon Milne Counselling
Space to Grow
Integrative Counselling with Internal Family Systems
I am a skilled, experienced Integrative Counsellor offering a holistic approach to therapy which comprises your physical, emotional, volitional, rational and spiritual wellbeing. I work from a non-diet, body acceptance perspective. I help you reflect on where you are, and where you would like to be, and provide you the tools and space to grow.
One of those tools is InternaI Family Systems Therapy which is an evidenced based form of psychotherapy, offering a new and illuminating way to bring insight into your inner world. This is a gentle and compassionate approach which brings hope, with the possibility of real lasting change and healing.
My approach incorporates the five principles of trauma-informed care, which are safety, trustworthiness, choice, collaboration and empowerment. Within the therapeutic relationship I work with individuals who suffer with depression, all forms of anxiety (health, separation, climate etc), stress, self-esteem, anger, relationship difficulties (including family estrangement), spiritual issues, bereavement and loss (including miscarriage and abortion).
As well as IFS, I offer creative therapy with clients. This does not mean creating works of art, but using tools such as Russian dolls, stones, clay, pens, paints, paper and toys which can help show visually what's happening within.
I look forward to meeting you.
Calm ~ Accepting ~ Non-judgemental ~ Compassionate
As well as my formal Counselling training accredited by Middlesex University, I have been trained to Level 2 by IFS UK and am an Internal Family Systems Practitioner.
I have expanded my training within the IFS model to include
'Parts which focus on food and the body''
'A Compassionate Approach to Addictive Processes'.
CPD in 2023
Weight Stigma, Fat Phobia and Diet Culture in the Therapy Room
I am a registered member: MNCS (Accred) with
The National Counselling Society.
I am also a registered member of
The Association of Christian Counsellors.
It goes without saying
that I welcome people of all faiths and none.
Internal Family Systems Therapy
Have you ever said 'there is a part of me' ? If so, you have already noticed that our minds are naturally multiple! We as human beings are naturally made up of many 'parts'!
In IFS these are categorised into three types. A proactive protector called a Manager. These parts want to keep everything in control, and they will sometimes go to extreme lengths to get that. A reactive protector is called a Firefighter. They want the same thing, but they react to situations where pain is present and use behaviours which might not be so helpful in the long run like shopping, overworking, dieting/restricting, eating/binging through to more extreme behaviour. Then we have our Exiles, the parts of us who hold painful memories and carry burdens such a beliefs, wounds and painful memories. They carry our feelings of shame, worthlessness and loneliness etc. We can also have parts who are polarised - eg. one part of me wants to go out and enjoy myself, but another part is very tired and wants to stay home. IFS is an evidence based modality and found to be effective in the treatment of trauma, anxiety, depression, eating disorders and addiction.
Within our internal system we also have a Self, this isn't a part, it's at our core and contains all our parts. It also remains undamaged despite what we have been through. Self is always present, but a bit like the sun, on a cloudy day (the clouds being our parts) we cannot always see the sun, even though we know it is there. By working with me using this model, we can get to know your parts and work with them, rather than trying to get rid of them. All parts are welcome!
No two people are the same
Integrative Counselling is a combined approach to psychotherapy which brings together different elements of specific therapies such as Person Centred Therapy, Gestalt, CBT, Psychodynamic, Transactional Analysis and Transpersonal. As no two people are the same, the integrative approach is tailored specifically to you. I also incorporate Attachment Theory and Mindfulness into my work.
What's it all about?
Counselling can seem daunting, especially if this is new to you.
In our initial session I will happily answer any questions you have and you can experience how I work. After that we can then determine whether working together will be beneficial to you.
As the Therapeutic Relationship is an important part of therapy, I offer a reduced fee of £35 for the initial consultation. This is payable upon booking - you will receive an invoice and once that has been paid, I will forward a Zoom invitation, a GDPR Statement and a Client Information Record which needs to be completed prior to our session.
Please note, once I have offered ou a date and time, I can only hold this for 24 hours. If I do not receive payment within 24 hours, the slot is released to the next person waiting
Benefits of Therapy
Counselling and Psychotherapy is an investment in your greatest asset - you. The relationship with yourself is the longest one you will have, and just like any form of exercise benefits your physical health, having counselling is just as important for your mental health.
Some examples of the benefits of therapy that can take place are:
an increased level of self-awareness
learning how to set and manage boundaries
effective communication in relationships
healthier coping mechanisms
an increased sense of emotional wellbeing
How will it help me?
Life throws many surprises at us, and while we cannot predict the outcome of any situation, we can learn how to respond to certain situations in an emotionally healthy way.
Our childhood and past hurts can also play a part in how we handle life today, which can lead to us feeling stuck or overwhelmed.
In our relationships we can face demands and obstacles. Counselling is a good place to explore those challenges and acquire new ways of communicating and growing together.
I am a 7-10 minute walk from Buckhurst Hill or Roding Valley stations on the Central Line. Free on street parking. Online counselling via Zoom.
£50 for 50 minutes (a counselling hour)
£75 for 90 minutes
As part of my commitment to making counselling accessible to all, I have four reduced fee slots (£35) for those who genuinely cannot afford to pay the above fees. These apply to weekly sessions only. (Currently Full)
Payment is by bank transfer.
Fees are payable 24 hours prior to your session. If you need to cancel I require 24 hours notice otherwise a full fee is payable.
Buckhurst Hill, Essex
Healing means accepting all parts of ourselves, not just the parts we like, but all of us.